How to put romance back into ur relationship..!
Laura speaks:
Remember ur first thrilling and on cloud nine romance? How u fell in love with ur hunky,tall, dark and handsome beau? Now that u have married and have kids and life is so boring and a drudgery .U feel that romance is absent or has waned and u recalled those happy and sweet memories when life was so carefree and he was romancing u.U were like two ‘happy go lucky’ guys without a hitch in the world.
U want to energize and spice up ur love life but dont know how to go about it or u are directionless ,just bobbing neither here or there and just being carried away by the ocean currents where it wants.U crave for the close intimacies, all those sweet nothings and his attentions and affections.Those wonderful sweet , euphoric feelings or sensations of being in love..
U want to seek a fresh purpose to the meaning of ur marriage life which has become so dull and drab.Though u may not be physically as beautiful as before and he is not as handsome as he used to be , u could still have some fun and fantasies in ur life.U could recharge those dormant feelings and have a blast…
If u are just in love with ur partner and have no romantic love, u will sense a feelings of emptiness, for u would have missed those wonderful and fascination romantic thoughts and feelings.Imaginations and fantasies are what makes our life interesting and pleasurable.
If u have no romantic love and still dont know if it is love,thats is even more muddled and confused…keek! U would have to sit by the river banks and wait till the water subsides and see the stones at the bottom of the river bed.Then u would know whether it is love or not.Time will tell and u need to be very patient.If u dont feel it, then it is not love.
How to be romantic and have those happy and sensual feelings again?
The answer is very simple and yet many dont realize it.. Just fall in love again..!U fall out of love and u need to go back in again using another door or the same door..keek!Maybe u got to say “Zam Zam ala Kazam!†and the magical door of the romance world opens to u..keke!
To fall in love again , it will have to be the woman who will have to spark the fire of romance .The man would have fallen into a rut and forgotten by now how to romance or thought it is over.
It is to the advantage of the women to create the atmosphere of romance .Let those emotions of romantic love out of the dark cage .Feel and experience those emotional romantic thoughts, the sights , the sensual and soft touch , those caresses, the sounds.Use ur imaginations, what kind of romantic love u would want to share with ur husband or b/f.
Looked at him again through the eyes of another woman and see what u still see in him .All those qualities that u admired before .Have u taken him for granted?U complained about his insensibilities and his obtuse ways but u never realized that u also took him for granted .Man are also sentimental beings and they need adorations and that he is still attractive to u.
If u want to be romantic, u need to visualize ,read more love stories , see more love dramas.Use more imaginations, feed ur thoughts with more inmaginations , fantasies ,dreams and then they will intensify ur emotions and feelings.Stop dreaming about the other gorgeous guy which is out of bounds to u and look inwards.Provide him with a romantic climate or atmosphere where his senses is tilltilated ,soft dim lights or candle lights , soft romantic musics wafting in the backgrounds, wear those sexy outfits , sit near him and switched of the T.V or all distractions.Walk hand in hand in the garden or take him to a beautiful place where u can feel the beauty and the love …
Go to those intimate restaurants where the ambience is conducive to kindle romantic feelings.U could also go to those parks or beaches to picnic, just the two of u.Make him feel exuberant, enchanted and fascinated with u again .Love will bloom a second time ,when he hold’s u in his strong arms and u radiate like the most beautiful orchid or rose .
Why are still waiting for..? Use ur tongue not for criticizing , complain and naggings but to show him and praise and give him a lick or two..keke!
Posted in on May 31st, 2007 by suzie | | 25 Comments
Gay Malaysian ordained
Laura speaks:
Sin Chew Daily and China Press highlighted the ordination of Malaysian Ou Yang Wen Feng as a pastor of Metropolitan Community Church, New York. China Press reported yesterday that Ou Yang, 37, came out of the closet last year and disclosed that he was gay. He is said to be the first pastor in Malaysia to do so, the daily said.
The daily quoted Ou Yang as saying that it had been his dream to become a pastor one day. “Since I was 17 years old, I was already preaching in churches,†the daily quoted him as saying. According to Sin Chew Daily, Ou Yang went to further his studies in the United States on the daily’s scholarship in the 90s. Ou Yang is a guest columnist at the daily.
A pastor who is a gay and in a church in New York.
Dont tell me that what the church did was wrong?
U can believe whatever u like or want..
Who is right and who is wrong?
The people of New York or the people in a third world country like Malaysia..?
A sign of the times…. huh!
Suzie says:
Oh Laura, the world is not as simple as you paint it. I wish it was. This is a very controversial issue. 
Posted in on May 30th, 2007 by suzie | | 7 Comments
Singapore Methodist cleric calls for tolerance
Guest speaks:
Michael, I just wanted to share with you this article Singapore Methodist cleric calls for tolerance
A former Methodist bishop has called for greater understanding and respect for gays in Singapore, where recent public debate has questioned whether homosexuality should be decriminalized.
“We know that the differences will exist, we only . . . plead for mutual respect and not for condemnation,” the Rev. Dr. Yap Kim Hao, who in 1968 became the first Asian bishop of The Methodist Church in Singapore and Malaysia, said at a Thursday night dialogue on homosexuality and the church.
Most of Singapore’s 4.5 million people are Buddhist, followed by Christians. The nation’s other main religion, Islam, also forbids homosexuality.
Posted in on May 28th, 2007 by suzie | | 15 Comments
Will u still love me when I am old and ugly..?
Laura speaks:
Many woman will have this thought in their brains.Growing old is inevitable as everyone goes through that process.
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Some bright young stars will die young.They dont die but they just fade away.Dont know why it is like that..U can recall a few of those young and beautiful like princess Diana.
We may be still young and we see those old people around us and we imagine what it will be like to us when we grow old.When u grow old, u will understand .Meanwhile dont worry if he will still love u or not till death separates u apart.
Come to the bridge then only decide. There is no point thinking about this issue right now or worry about it.U have many things to worry about .Worrying about this issue would kill more of ur brain cells..keek!.
Let tomorrow takes care of itself. Everything is fated or destiny if u believe them.
No one can guarantee u ,for the only thing that we can guarantee is the sun will come out tomorrow..keke!
Suzie says:
Let tomorrow take care of tomorrow.There is still time enough for that.kekekeke. I imagine as I get older,I will look less and less at the mirror iiiks!
Posted in on May 28th, 2007 by suzie | | 5 Comments
I believe in karma
Timmy speaks:
I believe in karma. To know why we live like this today, look at our past. To know how we will live in the future, look at our present life. There’s nothing we can do about our past but we can control what we do today.
My point is this:
Whatever difficulties we face now, we must learn to adapt and bear with it.
If you focus on doing good things today, tomorrow will be better. In my opinion on karma, a homophobic person today might become homosexuals themselves in future lives. Nor everybody believes in karma I know bur I think everybody will agree that what goes around comes around.
Suzie says:
I believe in karma too.I however do not believe in it as an exact science but I believe everything we do has a consequence.We breathe,we live.We do not breathe,we die.It is an inherent part of the Buddhist way of life but I see it in a bigger picture.Let us do good while we can for we know not what tomorrow will bring.
Laura speaks:
There are people who believe in past life and go to those psychic or attend a seance to find out about their past lives . I dont know how true or whether to believe them or not. I would not go to any seance as I do not believe in divinations and it is against my conscience and religion.
I am not saying that it is not true as I cannot prove it.I ‘ll just accept it as a matter of fact or fiction.U dont need to wait for the next life to reap what u sow. U will reap what u sow in this present life.This is my belief.
Posted in on May 28th, 2007 by suzie | | 1 Comments
Looking for a gay partner
Michael speaks
A guy looking for a guy is not like a guy looking for a gal.There is more subtlety involved.First, one needs to be absolutely sure the other is of the same kind.Little gestures,body language,a stance,a glance,a comment,a smile all carry messages.Often,the other party thinks it is just friendship.To be rejected once the other party realizes it is a gay thingy is a very real thing.
Second,some guys who are straight do not mind gay sex especially if they play the dominant role.Like a famous man once said,a man wants sex any way he can get it.But he will never suffer the indignity of being the bottom unless he is gay.
On the other hand,a gay couple find it easer to get along with each other as they have basically ’similar’ outlooks.
But like a straight couple there has to be a top and a bottom. If both are similar,a satisfactory sexual union cannot happen.There are other ways of course,but it won’t be the real thingy.
Once a couple has sexually coupled, the bonding is there.However beware of the one-night-stands especially if they come with empty promises.It is however ok if a sexual liaison is a mutually accepted ‘one-time-fling’.
Posted in on May 28th, 2007 by suzie | | 2 Comments
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