A VERY GOOD EXAMPLE OF MISCOMMUNICATION
A young husband comes home one night, and his wife throws
her arms around his neck: “Darling, I have great news:
†I’m a month overdue. I think we’re going to have a baby!
The doctor gave me a test today, but until we find out for
sure, we can’t tell anybody.â€
The next day, a guy from the electric company rings the door-bell,
because the young couple hasn’t paid their last bill: “Are you Mrs.
Smith?
You’re a month overdue, you know!â€
“How do YOU know?†stammers the young woman.
“Well, ma’am, it’s in our files!†says the man from the electric company.
“What are you saying? It’s in your files?????â€
“Absolutely.â€
“Well, let me talk to my husband about this tonight.†That
night, she tells her husband about the visit, and he, mad as a bull,
rushes to the electric company offices the first thing the next
morning. “What’s going on here? You have it on file that my wife is a
month overdue? What business is that of yours?†the husband shouts.
“Just calm down,†says the clerk, “it’s nothing serious.
All you have to do is pay us.â€
“PAY you? and if I refuse?â€
“Well, in that case, sir, we’d have no option but to cut
yours off.â€
“And what would my wife do then?†the husband asks.
“I don’t know. I guess she’d have to use a candle.â€
“WWWHHAAAAAAAAAATTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Another example of miscommunication.
A girl walks into a supermarket and asks the clerk,†Can I have a
turkey for my grandma?†the clerk responds,†Sorry. We don’t do
exchanges.â€
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on June 26th, 2007 at 1:33 pm
Moments in life.
There are moments in life when you miss
some one
so much that you just want to pick them from
your dreams and hug them for real!
When the door of happiness closes, another
opens;
but often times we look so long at the
closed door that we don’t see the one,
which has been opened for us.
Don’t go for looks; they can deceive.
Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile,
because it takes only a smile to
make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Dream what you want to dream;
go where you want to go;
be what you want to be,
because you have only one life
and one chance to do all the things
you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you
sweet, enough trials to make you strong,
enough sorrow to keep you human and
enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily
have the best of everything;
they just make the most of
everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always
be based on a forgotten past;
you can’t go forward in life until
you let go of your past failures and
heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying
and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end,
you’re the one who is smiling and everyone
around you is crying.
Author unknown.
When the door of happiness closes, another
opens;
but often times we look so long at the
closed door that we don’t see the one,
which has been opened for us.
Helen Keller.
on June 26th, 2007 at 2:01 pm
Prejudices in the church..
http://www.gaychurch.org/Gay_and_Christian_YES/calling_the_rainbow_nation_home/8_gac_prejudice_in_the_church.htm
This is quite a very good article.. Believe whatever you feel is right and not to impose your views or belief on others. If your conscience say it is wrong , then it is wrong for you.That does not mean that everyone must follow your conscience.
on June 26th, 2007 at 2:23 pm
Face the truth, girlfriend: He’s not that into you Message List
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NEW YORK - So you’ve been dating this guy, and it seemed to be going
so well. Long dinners. Cuddly walks in the park. Flirty text messages.
And then, suddenly, he just stopped calling.
Your mind races for an explanation. Is he lying in a hospital bed?
With amnesia? Did his house burn down with his address book inside it?
Or maybe he’s wounded from a previous relationship and just needs a
little time?
Oh, for heaven’s sake, say the authors of a hugely popular new book.
Enough with the excuses! Face the truth, girlfriend, and the truth
will set you free:
HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
With that simple message, emblazoned on the cover of a slim, pink
volume, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo have shot up best-seller lists.
Launched in September with a printing of 30,000, He’s Just Not That
Into You is now in its 14th printing, at 1.2 million copies and
counting. It’s been featured (twice) on The Oprah Winfrey Show, a TV
talk show, with Winfrey shouting over and over to dating-challenged
women in the audience: ‘He’s just not that into you!!’
So what, you might ask, is so revolutionary about advice that’s so
common sense it could be coming from your mother?
‘It’s just a wake-up call,’ says Tuccillo, a former writer for Sex and
the City, a popular TV series about romance and relationships, who
also happens to be single and dating in New York. ‘It’s just a
clear-as-a-bell, funny, simple wake-up call.’
It all began with a story meeting at Sex and the City. Behrendt, a
stand-up comic and writer, had been serving as consultant to the show.
A woman on the staff started talking about a guy she liked who’d been
running hot and cold. The other women launched into thoughtful
analysis of the man’s every action, and Behrendt just blurted out -
you guessed it! - ‘He’s just not that into you’.
‘We all started shrieking!’ Tuccillo says. ‘Because women never talk
to their friends like that.’ They started peppering him with
questions. What about the guy who was caring for his sick mother? He
answerknew it.ed, ‘If that was me, you’d be the bright spot in my day, and I’d
make sure you ‘
on June 26th, 2007 at 2:30 pm
As die-hard Sex and the City fans know, the incident became a
much-discussed episode, with Cynthia Nixon’s character, Miranda, on
the receiving end of the blunt verdict delivered by Berger, a
boyfriend of Carrie’s (Sarah Jessica Parker).
But even more important, Tuccillo says, it became obvious that this
should be a book. Behrendt recalls that he went home and told his
wife, ‘You know that crazy Liz? She wants me to write a book with her
on this. And my wife said: ‘She’s right. You should.’ ‘
It is not like most self-help books you’ve seen. Only 165 pages, it is
funny and blunt. Its cover delivers the message succinctly: an
answering machine, set to a big fat zero. There are pithy chapters on
all the ways a man can show you that he’s just not … well, you know.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if … He’s Not Calling You. (’With the
advent of cellphones and speed dials, it is almost impossible NOT to
call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don’t
even mean to.’)
- He’s Just Not That Into You if … He’s Not Asking You Out. (’Sadly,
not wanting to see you in person is massive as far as dating obstacles
go.’)
- He’s Just Not That Into You if … He’s Not Having Sex With You.
(’Get a big red crayon. Colour in this flag. You’ve just made a big
red flag. Good, because that’s what a man not wanting to have sex with
you is.’)
The book also lays waste to some tried-and-true excuses women often
let men get away with. Like, he’s just too busy. (’The word ‘busy’ is
the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good
excuse. …’) Or, he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
(’Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind that excuse has
never ever been used by someone who actually means it.’)
And, not to focus solely on male behaviour, it leaves women with some
key advice on how to act when feeling hurt and angry. ‘One simple
rule, ladies, always be classy. Never be crazy. It will ensure that
you never have that awful memory of cutting his clothes in half or
leaving his dog by the side of the road.’
Although Behrendt and Tuccillo say they’ve received mostly excellent
feedback, inevitably some people don’t like the book. They don’t get
the humour, they don’t like the title, they don’t like the tone. ‘But
hey,’ Behrendt says, ‘it’s just advice, it’s not a mandate. I’m not a
doctor or a therapist.’ Though, he adds, some therapists have praised
the book, too.
And asked why the book is directed only at women - Hey Greg, aren’t
there guys out there who need to hear ‘SHE’S Just Not That Into You?’
- Behrendt has a simple reply.
‘Sure, we could have written that book,’ he says. ‘And about eight
guys would have bought it.’ — AP
on June 26th, 2007 at 3:41 pm
- He’s Just Not That Into You if … He’s Not asking You Out.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if … He’s Not Calling You.
He’s Just Not That Into You if … He’s Not Having Sex With You.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He does not buy you a present or gift.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He does not e-mail or SMS u
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He does not look into your eyes
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He never compliments or praise you.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He complains too much about you.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He is always late for your appointments.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …Forgets your birthdays, Valentines day.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …Talks about his other g/f’s
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He does not dress smartly .
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He is always busy talking on the phone when he is with you.
- He’s Just Not That Into You if …He is ogling all the girls passing by.
Can you think of anymore..? keke!
on June 26th, 2007 at 3:52 pm
Japanese women staying single by droves
TOKYO - No matter how independent, fashionable or popular she may be,
Japan’s unwed woman has long been the eternal loser - lonesome during
the holidays, dreaming of the child she never had, dreading the
inevitable question at family gatherings: ‘Aren’t you married yet?’
But in unprecedented numbers, Japanese women are answering that
question with a firm ‘No’ - and trying to console other women about
how to deal with their plight.
Ms Sakai’s book Howl Of The Loser Dogs tells Japan’s single women how
to survive the backlash of staying single. –AP
‘Women these days aren’t going to marry just anybody,’ declared Ms
Junko Sakai, whose recent book Howl Of The Loser Dogs sold more than
300,000 copies by telling Japan’s single women how to survive the
backlash of staying single.
Marriage has certainly lost some of its allure for Japanese women -
and that has meant changes for Japanese society and business.
Over the past decade, the portion of Japanese women aged 25 to 29 who
never married has surged from 40 per cent to 54 per cent. The
percentage for women aged 30-34 has increased from 14 per cent to 27
per cent, according to government statistics.
In the United States, 40 per cent of women from 25 to 29 are single,
and 23 per cent of women from 30 to 34. The trend to stay unmarried is
more pronounced in England, at 65 per cent in the 25-29 age group,
although that sinks to 39 per cent for 30-34.
Japanese men are also delaying marriage these days, but often they
cite economic reasons: they have trouble finding a job that gives them
the stability they need for married life, or they’re more hesitant to
assume the responsibilities of family.
Many Japanese women, however, see a single major reason for their
growing distaste of marriage: men who expect their wives to cheerfully
surrender their jobs or juggle a career while single-handedly serving
their husbands and caring for the kids.
‘It’s not that we’re set on being single. We’re thirsting for a good
marriage, but we can’t find the right guy,’ Ms Sakai, a single
38-year-old, said in a recent interview in Tokyo. ‘Men haven’t changed
their old mind-set. Women have grown too powerful for them.’
The situation is a dramatic reversal of the strong tradition in Japan
that praises early marriage and criticises women who delay marriage as
unattractive and selfish.
In the 1980s, a woman who hadn’t found a husband by the time she was
25 was dismissed as ‘Christmas cake’, a reference to the cake Japanese
eat on December 25 - or throw away as worthless on the 26th.
Reflecting the trend towards later marriages these days, attention has
focused on single women who hit their 31st birthday without a husband.
Such women are now known as ‘New Year’s Eve noodles’, referring to the
tradition of eating noodles that night.
The fading attraction of marriage is having a profound impact on
public policy in Japan, where the government is worried that the
plunging birthrate will mean labour shortages in the future and a drop
in support for the growing ranks of the elderly.
The number of children a woman now has is at an average of 1.29 - a
record low for Japan and far short of the 2.01 average in the United
States, 1.90 in France and 1.63 in England.
Ms Chikako Ogura, professor of gender studies at Waseda University in
Tokyo, doesn’t see much hope in the proposals the government has been
pushing to reverse the trend, such as adding child-care facilities and
prodding employers to grant maternity leave.
The critical problem is that people aren’t getting married at all.
Young women have jobs and reject a marriage that won’t deliver a more
comfortable life, she says.
The emerging rift between the sexes reflects a widening gap between
the economic realities of working women and the expectations of
womanhood rooted in this nation’s culture, many of which Japanese
women still feel they must answer.
‘Women are looking for a marital partner who’ll allow them to do
whatever they want. They want a marriage that’s perfect, economically
and mentally. There aren’t that many men who can offer that,’ Ms Ogura
said. ‘And they’re all taken.’
In the old days, marriages were often arranged by families, but such
practices are now generally seen as outdated and undesirable. However,
no widely accepted alternative has emerged for younger people to meet
the opposite sex.
Once in marriage, women are finding that husbands can’t be counted on
to help out with cooking or laundry. Government studies show men spend
on average less than 10 minutes a day on housework while working women
put in two hours.
Ms Frances Rosenbluth, professor of political science at Yale
University, says the system of lifetime employment at Japanese
companies, in which loyalty and long hours are demanded in exchange
for job stability, is the main reason women have such a hard time
balancing motherhood and career.
In a society that assumes companies hire workers for life, women, who
tend to drop out of the labour market for pregnancy and child-rearing,
suffer a significant stigma and add huge costs to employers.
‘Women are not satisfied with the old way, but they don’t have a new
way. They’re stuck. The way they cope with that is by at least having
some career before getting married. They figure once they get married,
it’s going to be all over,’ she said.
The one segment responding to the growing singles trend are
businesses, such as hotels and health spas. Previously, single women
were shunned by the service industry as tightwads.
Although the trend is decreasing, traditional-style Japanese hotels
didn’t even allow women travelling alone to spend the night, fearing
they were looking for a place to commit suicide - so alien was the
idea of an independent woman enjoying leisure.
‘The options for Japanese women have grown more diverse, rather than
the old formula of marriage being the only way to happiness,’ says Ms
Kaori Haishi, a 38-year-old food critic who has set up a website with
other women to recommend restaurants and hotels friendly to solitary
females.
Nowadays, many single women feel increasingly free to make the
decision to marry on their own, rather than simply caving in to social
pressure, said Ms Etsuko Moriyama, 38, who is divorced.
‘Like a child, a marriage is like a blessing,’ said Ms Moriyama, an
editor who worked on Sakai’s book. ‘Maybe I’ll get married, maybe I
won’t.’ — AP
P/S This article is outdated … printed in 2005..keke! Whats the real situation now, I dont know? There are some points here which is relevant.