Women are looking for a marital partner who’ll allow them to do whatever they want
Women want a marriage that’s perfect, economically and mentally.â€
Do you think this is attainable in this present age? Woman want to carry on working like men and then come back and be pampered by their partners.
Hey! Isnt that like a man!..keke!A role reversal or a househusband scenerio .
A woman working outside would have a conflict of interest.Be a working mum or be a full time housewife .She can neither be half and half and will not be able to do all her best ,but some do balance their working life with the family life with the understandings of the man. There will be no stereotyping or gender roles. Both man and woman would do what the other has no time to do .Which means that a man must be versatile like a woman . Doing the cooking , laundering, baby caregiving and all duties associated with woman.What do you call such a man ? He is able to work and then be a ‘woman’ of the house too..keke!The man will have to accept that woman have changed and are now challenging men’s role in the soceity . Man will have to adapt to women’s new roles .
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on June 27th, 2007 at 9:49 am
Most of my friends who married young are like that already. Their wives went out with classmates for shopping & whatever… and the husband stay home to look after the babies. Me? I changed my kids’ nappies & making midnight feed much more often than my wife does.
on June 27th, 2007 at 11:56 am
yes, maam!
on June 27th, 2007 at 11:57 am
Haha, then my husband is much more lucky than you. I am a working woman, and I also need to take care of my daughter and household. Of course my husband also change nappies and feed, but not as often as me.
on June 27th, 2007 at 12:36 pm
Hi James,
Thanks for your sharing. You are the new generation man. .Congrats!!!
Sometimes, if we just stand back and look at our overworked and unappreciated wife, her role in the family is many faceted. She has to deal with many issues all on her own , housekeeping , baby care giving, wife, cook, financing , etc. She may have to do all those work herself and only occasionally getting some help from the man. On top of that she also has to fend off the MIL if she is staying with them. This one is a bigger problem if the MIL wants to be in control .
Even a full time housewife cannot cope with all those task ,let alone a working mum. Even if they can cope with all those task, she would be a spent force at the end of the day, So ,somebody joked , probably a women who said that if their man cooked and washed up , it will be a great turned on for them ..keke! Now you know why your wife always claims headaches at night..keek!She is not in the mood physically or mentally but if you helped her do the house chores , she will feel loved and she will also have that little ‘extra’ at the end of the day.
Wife don’t mind suffering or sacrificing herself or bear the brunt of the hard work for their man if the man only knew how to appreciate and love them .Instead , the man comes home and start criticizing her looks and her methods and every single little thing about the house. The man is more fussy than the woman .Not lifting any finger to help her but complaining, blaming her for everything wrong and judging her.
This is the fatal mistake of many young husbands. Some has got the cheek to tell their wife to switched their roles.. The man felt that working outside is more stressed than staying at home and looking after the kids. Both are equally stressing The wife cannot help the husband about his work but can only offer her affections, love and understandings for the husband. While the husband can do a lot by helping his wife at home with all those household chores , which he can do and learn to do according to the wife’s standard. Woman must learn to accept that the man can do the job but not according to their standards. Wife should not be too strict or the man will not find the encouragement to help.She should give some leeway to him and not everything by her ways.
on June 27th, 2007 at 12:52 pm
Hi Wuching,
One day in the not too distant future, this world will be run by women..keke!They will be everywhere in the top echelon. Just look at the number of women undergraduates, the men undergrads are shrinking every year.
on June 27th, 2007 at 1:02 pm
Hi Jenny,
Thanks for your post.Husbands are like backup generators..keek! Only used sparingly when u are not available .Being a women ,your motherly instincts would be hard to ignore.Women are natural born caregivers and have the right aptitude for the job.
Men are not born with this trait as they dont get pregnant and dont realise how difficult it is to carry the infant around for the nine months or face all those emotions of being pregnant ..keke!
on June 27th, 2007 at 2:18 pm
This is a very beautiful site…enjoy.
http://www.smplysoft.com/index.html
on June 27th, 2007 at 2:22 pm
LISTEN TO MY HEART…..
You came into my life unexpectedly,
and everything took a turn for the better.
Your warm eyes, your laugh,
the sincere way you speak,
and the kindness you showed me
all became a part of my life.
As you unfolded yourself to me,
I discovered more and more beauty.
I have never seen so much
gentleness in one person.
Without even knowing it, you were
slowly making a place for yourself in my heart
It used to seem so hard at times
to feel close in a relationship.
But it is so easy to feel close to you.
I can’t tell you how nice that feels.
I realize now that I had never known
what it meant to be loved until
I was loved by you.
Laura A Baker
http://www.smplysoft.com/listen.html
on June 27th, 2007 at 2:45 pm
The ages of woman
A Look In the Mirror
Age 8: Looks at herself and sees herself as Cinderella/Sleeping
Beauty.
Age 15: Looks at herself and sees herself as Cinderella/Sleeping
Beauty/Cheerleader or if she is PMS’ing: sees fat/pimples/UGLY. (Mom
I can’t
go to school looking like this!)
Age 20: Looks at herself and sees “too fat/too thin, too/short/too
tall,
too straight/too curly”- but decides she’s going anyway.
Age 30: Looks at herself and sees “too fat/too thin, too short/too
tall, too
straight/too curly” but decides she doesn’t have time to fix it, so
she goes
anyway.
Age 40: Looks at herself and sees “too fat/ too thin, too short/to
tall too
straight/too curly”- but says: “At least I’m clean” and goes anyway.
Age 50: Looks at herself and sees “I am” and goes where ever she
wants to.
Age 60: Looks at herself and reminds herself of all the people who
can’t
even see themselves in the mirror anymore. Goes out and conquers the
world.
Age 70: Looks at herself and sees wisdom, laughter and ability, goes
out and
enjoys life.
Age 80: Doesn’t bother to look. Just puts on a purple hat and goes
out to
have fun with the world.
————–
Author Unknown
on June 27th, 2007 at 3:24 pm
All you mothers and fathers out there, you should treat both your sons and daughters the same .Give them an all round training that will ensure their survival in a marriage..keek!. There is no such thing as only for girls or only for boys thingie.
Everyone one must learn everything, then we will have a balanced personality.Learning cooking or laundry will not make sissy of boys or learning how to do the DIY or handyman for girls will not make them unmanly or tomboyish.
In this age and time , no more stereotyping of male or female genders.Both should be given equal opportunities in every thing..
I think I must be livng in the year 2020..keke!
on June 27th, 2007 at 5:45 pm
Love is….
To My Friends WhoAre……….SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it,
themore it eludes you. But if you just let it fly,
itwill come to you when you least expect it. Love
canmake you happy but often it hurts, but love’s
onlyspecial when you give it to someone who is
reallyworth it. So take your time and choose the
best.
To My Friends Who Are………… NOT SO
SINGLELove isn’t about becoming somebody else’s
“perfectperson.” It’s about finding someone who helps
youbecome the best person you can be.
To My Friends Who Are………… PLAYBOY/GIRL
TYPENever say “I love you” if you don’t care. Never
talkabout feelings if they aren’t there. Never touch
alife if you mean to break a heart. Never look
inthe eye when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing
aguy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love
whenhe doesn’t intend to catch her fall and it works
bothways…
To My Friends Who Are…………MARRIED
Love is not about “it’s your fault”, but “I’m
sorry.”Not “where are you”, but “I’m right here.” Not
“howcould you”, but “I understand.” Not “I wish you
were”,but “I’m thankful you are.”To
My Friends Who Are………… ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility
is not the yearsspent together but how good you
are for each other.To My Friends Who
Are………… HEARTBROKENHeartbreaks last as long as
you want and cut as deepas you allow them to go.
The challenge is not how tosurvive heartbreaks
but to learn from them.
To My Friends Who Are………… NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don’t
stumble, beconsistent but not too persistent, share
and never beunfair, understand and try not to
demand, and get hurtbut never keep the
pain.
To My Friends Who Are…………POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love
happywith someone else but it’s more painful to know
thatthe one you love is unhappy with you.
To My
Friends Who Are………… AFRAID TO CONFESSLove
hurts when you break up with someone. It hurtseven
more when someone breaks up with you. But
lovehurts the most when the person you love has no
ideahow you feel.
To My Friends Who
Are………… STILL HOLDING ONA sad thing about life is
when you meet someone andfall in love, only to
find out in the end that it wasnever meant to be
and that you have wasted years onsomeone who
wasn’t worth it. If he isn’t worth it nowhe’s not
going to be worth it a year or 10 years fromnow.
Let go…..
Author Unknown
on June 27th, 2007 at 7:51 pm
Date rape..
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/beritamalaysia/message/95111
Every day, eight women and girls are raped. And more
than half of the cases reported every year are date rapes.
What about those not reported? That could be a large number of cases too.
These people do not want their shame to be in public as the persecution of the rapist would lead to the publicity in the media’s. It is even worse when the rapist is not convicted due to technical faults or lack or solid evidence. Being raped is traumatic enough but reliving it again and again in the public eye due to the lengthy court process can be disastrous .Everyone will know and she will have no ‘face’ to show .
If you are below 18 and considered a minor, sex even though
willingly is considered statutory rape and that is a mandatory jail
term of eight years.
If you are above 18, it will be harder to prove unless you struggled
and there were injuries on your body .Some woman when they don’t get what they wanted , cried rape..
Dating game is now fraught with dangers. There is the date drug where they put it in your drink and it is odourless and once you drink it, you will not remember anything after you wake up. Family dating is old fashioned but safer as you can get to know the guy and be safe.It is not easy to read people’s intentions these days. Some people looked good on the outside but have an evil heart inside. Sometimes , you cant blame the men because he was tempted and he could not resist because he did not fear God .
Rape is caused by three factors ,the rapist, the place and the opportunity.
Don’t go to where you are not familiar with.
Listen to your own conscience about safety and fear.
Never trust any man because sometimes they can become weak
and succumbed to their base senses.
Even in extreme cases, even relatives especially the man.
Don’t be too trusting of any man.Try not to give any man any opportunities .
You maybe playful only, but some men may take it that u are asking them to come on…
Your body language maybe giving the come on hither signals to the man . So beware .
After taking all those precautions and it still happened, then it is fated or your bad luck.
You were at the wrong place and at the wrong time .
You will have to be mentally prepared what to do if you had no choice.
How to handle a rape attempt?
Scratch the rapist, as skin cells collected from underneath the finger nails can be used to prove his identity,” by DNA. Scratch as hard as you can on anywhere on his body or face.
If the opportunity presents , kicked him hard inbetween the legs, the crotch .
That is the weakest part of a man. Another weak part is his throat, punched hard or karate chop at his voice box. This will incapacitate him for awhile and you can make your escape.
Buy a pepper spray or an alarm system and keep it inside your purse or handbag.
Do not shower and wash away all the evidence. Go to the police immediately or to the hospital if you are seriously hurt .Call your friend or immediate relative for help.
Be safe , do not take shortcuts or dark alleys if you can.
If you are in a car, don’t open your doors.Your car is a dangerous weapon. If they try to be funny, drive like mad and they will run for their lifes.
on June 27th, 2007 at 7:56 pm
Sorry about the double posting, it was unintentional, usually the system will not allowed double post..keke!
on June 27th, 2007 at 8:53 pm
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
Today’s Verse from the New Living Translation
Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.
Proverbs 29:11
view in context
Encouragement for Today
Anger is like a splinter in your finger. If you leave it there, it gets infected and hurts every time you use your finger. If you remove it, the sore heals and you feel better. Take a moment and confess your anger to God. Diffuse the bomb that is ticking inside you. Give it up and move on. You’ll be glad you did. And, all the people around you will be thankful, too.
From
Today Christian women
Laura speaks:-
Today is about anger management in our life
Ephesians 4:26-27
If you are angry ,dont sin by nursing your grudge.Dont let the sun go down with you still angry- get over it quickly.For when you are angry,you give a mighty foothold to the devil.
We are only human and mortal and have feelings. Who will never get angry.? Even the animals too can get angry..keke! God made us this way. Anger is like a fire, it can be used for good or for bad.If we are angry at unrighteousness, then anger makes us want to change. But if we are angry at somebody or another person and hold the grudge in our hearts, it will be bad for our health.
There is a Chinese proverb ,’ The fire that you kindle for your enemy often burn yourself more than him. ‘ You will be thinking of ways for revenge and your mind is tax to the limit with this vengeance or bad thoughts , while he is unconcerned and not bothered about you.
If you cannot let go of your anger, it will hurt you more. It becomes like a festering sore and getting worse and worse by the day or like a gangrene and you will lose some part of your body to this disease.
A stitch in time save nine. You should quickly settle your anger or differences with your spouse as soon as possible , the best time is before you both go to bed. Just one of you will say ‘sorry!’and you can both make up , just swallow your pride and make peace and not war. Whoever right or wrong doesn’t matter as long as you two will be on a good term again.
Another Chinese saying, ‘If you war at the front of the bed, then make peace when you reach the end of the bed.’ The bed is only about 6 - 8 ft., that means don’t keep your anger beyond your bed.A wise Chinese saying for couples.
It is important to handle our anger properly.It can hurt your spouse and she can remember that for her whole life..keke! If you are very angry ,go outside or somewhere and shout out as loud as you can to release those angry feelings. You will feel much better after that.
Rather than shout at your spouse and when u do , you never think and simply let go of what’s in your mind.
If we are experienced, we know that what is said in anger is never meant to be true and don’t hold your spouse for those hurtful words. A man or woman in pain will lashed out .
Don’t bottled up those angry feelings too. It can become bitter and will affect us in relation to our spouse. Your spouse is not a mind reader and would not know why you are so sullen or angry about.
The best remedy is not to get angry. If you are angry, count 1 – 10.If very angry , count 1-100..
By then , you will lose those angry feelings.
Reference
Dictionary of thoughts
Life Application Bible.
on June 28th, 2007 at 10:12 am
Bizarre….
A newlywed farmer and his wife were visited by
her mother,who immediately demanded an inspection
of the place.The farmer had genuinely tried to
be friendly to hisnew mother-in-law, hoping that
it could be a friendly,non-antagonistic
relationship. All to no avail though,as she kept nagging
them at every opportunity, demandingchanges,
offering unwanted advice and generally makinglife
unbearable to the farmer and his new bride. While
they were walking through the barn, during
theforced inspection, the farmer’s mule suddenly
rearedup and kicked the mother-in-law in the head,
killingher instantly. It was a shock to all no matter
theirfeelings toward her demanding ways… At the
funeral service a few days later, the farmerstood
near the casket and greeted folks as they
walkedby. The pastor noticed that whenever a woman
wouldwhisper something to the farmer, he would nod his
headyes and say something. Whenever a man walked by
andwhispered to the farmer, however, he would shake
hishead no and mumble a reply. Very curious as to
this bizarre behavior, the pastorlater asked the
farmer what that was all about. Thefarmer replied,
“The women would say, ‘What a terribletragedy’ and
I would nod my head and say ‘Yes, it was.’The
men would then ask, ‘Can I borrow that mule?’
andI would shake my head and say, ‘Can’t, it’s all
bookedup for a year.’”
Anonymous.
on June 28th, 2007 at 10:24 am
SEEDS OF LIFE
Two seeds lay side by side in the fertile spring soil……
The first seed said;I want to grow! I want to send my roots in the soil beneath me, and thrust my sprouts through the earth’s crust above me….I want to unfurl my tender buds like banners to announce the arrival of spring…I want to feel the warmth of the sun on my face and the blessing of the morning dew on my petals.
And so she grew……
The second seed said; I am afraid if I send my roots into the ground below..I dont know what I will encounter in the dark. If I push my way through the hard soil above me I may damage my delicate sprouts…what if I let my buds open and a snail tries to eat them? And if I were to open my blossoms, a small child may pull me from the ground. No, it is much better for me to wait until it is safe.
And so she waited….
A yard hen scratching around in the early spring ground for food found the waiting seed and promptly ate it.
MORAL OF THE STORY… Those of us who refuse to risk and grow get swallowed up by life.
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Grove/5353/InspirationalIII/messages.html
on June 28th, 2007 at 10:27 am
SELF PITY
May I never give way to self-pity and sorrow, may I always be sure of a better tomorrow, may I stand undaunted come what may, secure in the knowledge I have only to pray.
Today do not quit-carry on. Look ahead, not back.
Regret is futile…
Helen S. Rice
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Grove/5353/poetry/MiscPoems.html
on June 28th, 2007 at 10:35 am
CONTENTMENT VS. “IF ONLY”….
When was the last time you met someone who was truly content and at peace with the world?
There are many such people! They usually got the wisdom to be that way by learning from the experiences of an active spiritual life. They have discovered a sense of inner peace and contentment .
But many folks eat their hearts out, suffering from the contagious “If Only” disease. Its germs infect every slice of life:
If only I had more money
If only we owned a nicer home
If only I hadn’t come from such a bad background
If only my child were able to walk
If only we could have children
If only we didn’t have children
If only the business could have succeeded
If only I would’ve said “No” to drugs
If only I hadn’t had that accident
If only we could get back on our feet
If only people would accept me as I am
If only my folks hadn’t divorced
If only I had more friends
The list is endless. Woven through the fabric of all those words is an attitude that comes from the simple choice to see the negative side of life, the choice to be unhappy about almost everything that happens.
Taken far enough, it leads to the dead-end street of self- pity-one of the most distasteful and inexcusable of all attitudes. Contentment, on the other hand, comes from another one of those simple choices, one that doesn’t allow ourselves or others to listen to our list of woes.
We simply choose to create a different kind of list-a positive one-for if we don’t, people won’t stay around us very long.
DISCONTENTED SOULS SOON BECOME LONELY SOULS….
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Grove/5353/poetry/MiscPoems.html
on June 28th, 2007 at 12:29 pm
Women should be wise and know when to shut their mouth.When your husband is very agitated, stop, or you will make him jumped over the cliff.
This advise is also for the men. When you see your wife is near boiling point , shuddup or walk away. Dont say anything..because one more word from you would pushed them over the cliff..
on June 28th, 2007 at 1:09 pm
Today’s Verse from the New Living Translation
But don’t be so concerned about perishable things like food. Spend your energy seeking the eternal life that the Son of Man can give you. For God the Father has given me the seal of his approval.
John 6:27
view in context
Encouragement for Today
While God delights in granting our prayers and loves to be involved in the smallest parts of our lives, he also wants us to grow in spiritual depth and to come to him for eternal daily bread. Let the Holy Spirit guide you in your prayers today. Listen to God as he speaks to you. Let him feed you with eternal bread and sustain you with his eternal words of life.
from
Today Christian women..
Laura speaks:-
Oh! Lord! I am not worried and concerned about food.I have enough food to eat through your abundant grace . I want to live a simple life and be free all those license ‘Ah longs!’(banks) who come and demand payments every month.I did not follow your words and went bought this and that and am now paying for my excesses.
I am like being tossed in a small boat in an emotional storm in a big lake.I promised , I will not be a shopperholics and will keep all my credit cards all locked up .I would like you to take control of my life and seek your peace amidst the storm in my life.I will follow your way from now on..for you are the way the truth and the life.You are Christ , the son of the living God. Thank you Lord for your daily bread and I invite you to daily walk with me and to guide me..In Jesus name I pray ..Amen!