Are You A Good Father ?
You can be a good father if you put your heart into it.Every father is not born but are made. No one knows what a father’s love is like until he becomes a father himself.
Fathers today are different from father’s of yester years. Fathers need to commit more and share in the upbringing of the children.
Gone are the days when they leave all the care giving to the mothers..Fathers now have to take an active part in the children’s life.
Whatever your opinions of your father is,he is trying his very best to be a good father to you in the way he learned from your grandfather. He may not be perfect but he loved you all the same.
He is someone important in the family and yet he is like an enigma to us.He works and slogs his butt out to bring home the bacon to support the whole family.
Some father’s role seems to be confined to just bringing back the bacon and nothing more. These fathers were the traditional types.
All they knew as a husband and father was to work , and to support the family.Taking care of the kids were left entirely to his wife.She was given a free hand to do as she wished.
Many of us children in the older generations grew up without really knowing what our father’s was like or having a close special rapport with him like what we have with our mother’s.
Our mother was the sole caregiver and she tended to all our needs singlehandedly.Only when it was a big or major decision , she had to asked for the father’s opinions.This the only time , he came into the picture .
As a result , having a father is like having no father.He became irrelevant to us.From morning till night ,six days a week , he is never seen and on weekends , he is just around for a few hours and then gone again.
When we were still sleeping , he had to leave for work at 5.30am and when he came back late at night after 9.00pm , we were already in Lala land.
This was my description of my late father.This situation was better than those absent fathers who had to work oversea’s for a number of years.
He was not a bad father but he could have been a better father to us.I don’t blame him as he is not educated and come from the traditional family type.It was the norm in his times.
Our minds were shaped by the way our mother’s brought us up .Our father’s had no hands in our upbringing except in a few families where the father’s takes an active part in the family affairs.
When you become a father or mother, then you would really understand the problem of being a parent. You stand on the other spectrum of life.
What you did when you were young , now comes back in full circle..keke! Your daughter will repay you back the same medicine and more of it which you did against your mother.
You shall reap what you sow with abundance..Those of you who are young and still unmarried, you should not ‘cucuk’ or stick or shoot arrows into your mom’s heart.Sometimes silence is better when you are admonished .
You may try to be a good father by providing all our needs and be there always for your children .A father’s sacrifices everything for his children….but sadly not many children returns back the favours.
A father in the olden times can raise 10 kids but in today’s environment, 10 kids cannot support the father.
Posted by Laura
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Three Little Words.
There are many things that we can do to perk up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships. Yet the most effective involves the saying of just three words.
When spoken or conveyed, these statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled.
The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship.
I’ll Be There:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there.â€
Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
I Miss You:
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you.â€
This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say “I miss you.â€
I Respect You:
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends.
This applies to all inter-personal relationships.
Maybe You’re Right:
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and
restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to “maybe your right†is the humility of admitting, “Maybe I’m wrongâ€.
Let’s face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person’s point of view.
They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you.
Saying “maybe you’re right†can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.
Please Forgive Me:
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people
would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness.
All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
I Thank You:
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the
companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted.
They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
Count On Me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an
essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue
that bonds people.
Those that are rich in their relationships tend
to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating you can “count on me.â€
Let Me Help:
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.
I Understand You:
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the
other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. This applies to any relationship.
I Love You:
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs;
the need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your
family, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little
words. “I love you.â€
Credit belongs to this unknown author..
Posted by Laura
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Ban On Same Sex Marriage Unconstitutional In Iowal!!!
Laura comments ;-
An Iowa judge has struck down Iowa’s ban on same sex marriage as unconstitutional and ordered the local officials to process the marriage licences to the 6 gay couples….
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Sienna Miller’s Syndrome..
Why a women owns 111 handbags in her lifetime?
A woman is never without one and she will have as many as she can afford .It becomes a collection of sorts and it is an extension of her personlity.
Handbags and shoes are synonymous with a women’s lifestyle.
It is a necessity and an important part of her accessory for she will never get’s tired of them..keke!
With alot of snatch thieves, many have been more careful with appearing with a handbag.The handbags now adorned their rooms or stored in a special cabinet . Some have so many handbags that their room looks like a handbag shop..keke!
Some have bought so many that they have a ‘guilty feelings’ about their excesive and compulsive behaviours. Women do have this obsession with handbags and shoes.
And what’s inside their handbags? They keep all sorts of things in it,mobile phones, makeup’s ,manicure sets ,name cards, house keys, plasters, paracetamol, vitamins ,dental floss, a spare stocking , medicated oil or some naughty ones a spare condom..keke!
There is no explainations .It is just that they are simply women and those hormones made them loved those handbags and shoes.It is a women’s thingy.Men cannot understand and better dont try.
Posted by Laura
suggested readings
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=478816&in_page_id=1770
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Ashton Kutcher With Cameron Diaz..!
WOW! Those two sure looked a stunning and sizzling pair .
You named it , they have it..
They are both acting in a new movie “What happened in Vegas?”
Cameron just broke up from her pop beau Justin Timberlake
Kutcher said: “When it comes to getting dressed, men are a little bit more important than handbags but less important than shoes.
How did Demi kept her appearance young..?
Posted by Laura
suggested readings
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/showbiz/showbiznews.html?in_article_id=478722&in_page_id=1773
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Britney Bares Her Soul & Bottom!!!
Oh! Goodness me! Britney is in the news again . This time for wearing a micro mini skirt and sunning her bums….
She is in the middle of a divorce proceedings and this must have affected her
You can go here to view…
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/showbiz/showbiznews.html?in_article_id=478439&in_page_id=1773
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